Studies show that most people gain weight when they are in a relationship. It’s not just that the hunt is over and we already have someone to share our life with and we don’t feel the pressure to stay in shape, it’s also the fact that we now have to coordinate everything we do with our other half we now share everything with. Staying in shape while in a relationship can be challenging, but it can also be something that brings you closer together and helps you bond. Something that makes you and your relationship stronger. It all depends on how you approach it.
Recruit your other half to participate
Work on the principle that couples who train together stay together.
All you need is a little bit of planning with all parties being aware of
the precise time and the kind of training you will be doing so everyone
is mentally and physically ready for it. Talk it out, look at available
options together, make it a couple thing and work around your schedules
and other commitments. There are many ways to work out together without
leaving your house or spend any extra money on equipment or gym
membership. You can even make it a habit to work out in front of the TV
instead of having a family meal while glued to the screen. Pick a time
during the day when no matter what you both have to drop whatever you
are doing and show up for a training session and a work out. People who
are in sync and who can find the time for each other also tend to have a
more fulfilling and happy relationship and fitness is one of these
things that can bring people closer together.
If you can’t recruit your other half for whatever reason and the only
option is to work out alone, make sure you talk about it and explain
exactly what you are doing, when and especially – why. It’s important
that your other half understands your motives and can see that you are
serious about your fitness.
Get a plan and have it where you can see it - at all times
Finding a good program to follow is half the battle, sticking to it
is another matter entirely. The main obstacle is that we tend to find
the plan but then ignore it half the time. Print everything out and put
it on display, cross things out on completion and track your progress.
It also helps when you need to make sure your family understands what
you are doing and especially when so they know not to bother you during
these time slots or maybe have an option to join in.
When we are in a relationship we can’t cancel dinners or get by on
half a yogurt and some sunlight – it wouldn’t be fair to the person you
are with. So there will be cooking and there will be eating no matter
what. If you agree beforehand on the healthier options and find the kind
of menu you will be both comfortable with, you don’t just get to eat
healthier you also get all the moral support you need. It’s easier to
follow a plan when you do it together. It helps to sit down and talk
about it, not just announce that you no longer eat - period, but reason
it out why would you want change your eating habits, what it’ll change
for the two of you and how it’ll affect you both in the long run.
Explaining the “whys” is vital in this case.
Make your house fitness friendly
The best way to avoid snacking is to remove chips and candy (crisps
and sweets) from your house completely. So when you want to have
something special and not-so-good for you, you’ll have to leave the
house and go get it first. At the very least, you’ll get a walk out of
it and best case scenario – you won’t want to bother going out and won’t
snack. You can place a bowl of washed and ready to eat apples and pears
on a table for when you feel like crunching on something. Clear the
area in your house for exercise and set reminders everywhere you can all
around to stay motivated. Change your screensaver on your laptop to
match your fitness goals and keep your programs and workout charts at
hand at all times. Post it notes with messages to yourself will work,
- Eat your dinners while talking to each other – it’ll help you mind what you eat and you’ll eat less.
- Go for a short walk after every meal together.
- Plan your cheat meal for the weekend and eat healthy the rest of the time.
- Choose activities that will make you move – try to do at least one active thing every evening.
- Walk everywhere together – you can even race each other on a dare to different locations.
- Get an active hobby as a couple, like cycling or city photography. Going running together is unbeatable.